July
Sunshine arrived last night, looking just as she always does and with the stuff she always brings (or rather, doesn’t bring). No surprises.
I suppose one thing that was new is that she brought a pile of stories she had written and a bunch of her school work from the end of school. We hardly ever get to see this stuff…her kindergarten and first grade teacher were really good about sending samples of her work every couple of weeks, but her second grade teacher didn’t. She didn’t even send report cards unless we called and specifically asked for them. But she was really good about mailing us her weekly newsletters, which kept us up on what she was doing in school which was really nice. Can’t complain too much when really it is more than I realistically expect out of the schools up there. Sad, isn’t it?
My husband called her mother yesterday afternoon to make sure everything was going well. Sunshine wasn’t with her. Apparently her father (Sunshine’s grandfather) was taking her to the airport.
He asked her if she had gotten the insurance cards yet and if she could mail us a copy for the summer.
And, I know you will be shocked by this, cause I was…she said she had been laid off.
Right.
Well, maybe. But I doubt it. She gets “laid off” a whole hell of a lot. But whatever.
At least my husband hadn’t dropped her from his health insurance yet. Which he had not done on purpose, he had every intention of dropping her last month but forgot (heh). Least it worked out.
So I suppose we should check and see if his dental plan has dentists up there, or if she will need a checkup before she flies back at the end of the summer. I am thinking we should just take her. Her grandfather always takes her and pays for it. I don’t like that.
For those of you who don’t know, he views Sunshine as his “second (or fourth, rather) chance” at raising a child, since he has thus far failed on his first three attempts and created losers.
Oops, trying to be more positive…um…no really I can only describe them as losers.
He pretends to be her father. She already has a father. And a stepfather, actually. She is all full up in that department. But her mother is content to sit back and let him do all the work. Oh well. Not our business what goes on up there, right? Unless, of course, it is actually harming Sunshine. But there isn’t any evidence of that (not real harm, anyhow) so we don’t worry about it.
Anyway back to the beginning. Sunshine is here and summer is really starting now. I really liked my full month off of not having anything to do. Definitely in favor of that. Though now I kind of miss it, despite how bored I was. Doing nothing was nice.
Ah well. Next summer.
Tags: health insurance, school, stepdaughter, stepmom, sunshine
July 2nd, 2008 at 10:34 am
I was always saying we should send my stepson to his mother’s with absolutely nothing, but a few toys to entertain him on the plane. She never paid for any new clothes and she always managed to “forget” to pack many of his pants and stuff which we had to replace because he only visited her three times a year.
I love how flippant the biomom is about the job and insurance, like it isn’t a big deal that her child would have gone without health insurance when all she had to do was ask your husband to keep the kid on. Annoying that it is more important to keep her pride than help her child.
As much as I would miss my stepson I always looked forward to the time he would be at him moms for a summer month. I got a huge vacation. But it is fun with the kid too. We are huge board game players.
July 2nd, 2008 at 1:00 pm
Enjoy your time off! Is it really pride, about the job/insurance thing, or simply indifference on her part?
July 2nd, 2008 at 2:26 pm
Geez, what a horrible woman! She’s like “Oh, yeah, I got laid off.”
July 2nd, 2008 at 3:17 pm
All of the health insurance baloney aside, how cool is it that she brought school papers with her? I would be so excited!
July 7th, 2008 at 1:08 pm
Laid off? Yeah, right. She’s a waste of oxygen.
I agree with blue bamboo, it’s very cool that she brought her school papers with her.
But the grandfather? Not so cool. He needs to lay off, I think.
July 7th, 2008 at 2:03 pm
You know, it’s one thing to be involved in your grandkids lives, however there is a healthy level of involvement and then there is the unhealthy level of involvement….I think he is borderline. One one hand, I’m sure he knows what a crappy job his daughter is doing raising Sunshine….(laid off, my ass. More like fired, or quit because she’s so freakin’ lazy!) and maybe he’s just trying to do his best for Sunshine…but if he’s anything like my stepkids grandma he is crossing the line.
The evil grandma in our kids life considers herself to have more of right to our children, then we do! When we attend school programs she does everything she can to NOT let go of my stepson’s hand and come over to hug us. It’s very creepy. She is always around when we pick the kids up, or always comes with her daughter for their visits when the children live with us.(mostly because she pays for everything because their mom can’t afford to even pay her electricity.) However, she never calls (thank heavens!), emails, writes, etc when they are with us. Basically it’s out of sight out of mind with that woman…I think it’s entirely too confusing for the kids.
Oh, and I’m really happy Sunshine brought the papers too. That makes my world when we get things in the mail or when they bring a papre they wrote to us. I love it, and I put it in a scrapbook… I love it!